Maybe that was why, though I was oblivious to it at the time, he also nervously slipped his suit jacket over me at church when I said I was cold. And why he made sure to get it back when we went to our different classes.
I mean, I was a little nervous that our parents were meeting, but mostly completely excited and ready to take that next step. After all,
I kept my dress on. The white one with lace. I wore a headband. I wanted to look nice.
J's mother brought dessert in a beautiful box, of course.
"For after dinner!" She said. I thought nothing of it.
There wasn't a silent moment. I don't know why I worried there would be. There was lots of chatter. It was fun.
And then out of left field J's mother brought up the stack of wedding magazines she sent home with me, how she hoped my mother didn't mind her involvement. My face turned red. I know there had been talk of a wedding and I knew generally when I wanted it to happen, but we weren't engaged yet! Shhhh!
Needless to say a bit of an awkward vibe filled the air until my father so graciously intensified it.
"You know there's all this wedding planning going on, but I don't see a ring. Where's the ring?"
And as J stood up, hands shaking as he reached into his pocket, he said, "You want to see a ring?" (Which, unbeknownst to me, was in his suit jacket pocket during church.)
It all started to make sense. Especially the part where the girl says, "the rest was a blur, but I was really happy!" and things like that.
But my dad.... how did he know? He took it upon himself to transition right on cue, when he wasn't even included in the plans. Only J and his mother knew, that's why she brought up the "wedding talk" in the first place. I guess when 80% of what you say is in a joking manner, you're bound to align perfectly sometimes. Still, my dad is great.
Here is a journal entry from August 14, 2011:
I don't know how he could have planned it better. Not only was I NOT expecting today, but once I remember thinking that I hoped it would be on a Sunday because that is "our" day and we get to go to church together that day, eat dinner, and spend the whole day almost every single Sunday. So I guess it was inconvenient that he took off camping nearly 45 minutes after proposing.... oh well :)
A little ironic that he left his bride, but it just added to the suspense. I. WAS. ECSTATIC.
Oh, and that box of dessert? We're holding them.